Enabling vs. Helping

Speaking from experience is one of the best ways for me to convey to you what enabling looks like vs. truly helping. Enabling looks like:

  1. A parent not being aware, ignoring, or making excuses for behaviors in their children of addiction, mental difficulties with life. Hosea 4:6  “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge.”
  2. A parent or friend, family letting the addicted person “couch surf” or stay at your home while still involved in their addiction, while still not seeking professional or therapeutic help for their addiction or mental illness.
  3. Giving your family member or friend cash to “help” instead of the very thing they need for immediate assistance such as food, transportation to the therapist, doctor, or work. Matthew 4:19  “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.”
  4. Helping is giving them information that they may not be able to get for themselves (Names, phone #’s, addresses of entities that can provide therapy, food, shelter, sliding scale healthcare services).
  5. Stay in touch and let them know you care, love, are concerned for them. Matthew 5:1-3 “And he opened his mouth and taught them, saying: “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”
  6. If you love someone, are a friend to someone, know a person like this in your community one of the most powerful things you can do as a Christian (believer in Jesus as your savior) is to pray for them. For example: Think, O’ God, of our friend who is ill, whom we now commend to Your compassionate regard. that no healing is too hard if it be Your will. We therefore pray that You bless our friend with Your loving care, renew his/her strength, and heal what ails him/her in Your loving name.

Prayer is so powerful as mentioned in: Philippians 4:6-7 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. … Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

Published by mud2porcelain

I am a Christian writer, aspiring to inspire, uplift, encourage and help those who are overwhelmed, overworked, over needed, or just at a difficult time in life. Being 64, married, divorced, now married to my high school sweetheart, having had 4 children, 10 grandchildren, and now 3 great grandchildren surely qualifies me to be able to discuss the difficulties of life even with a family without any bumps in the road. Just so you know, there've been plenty of bumps in the road. I've been down the wrong road, a muddy, deep rutted road, a dusty loooong road, and one that I've asked for plenty of guidance from those who felt they were qualified to help me. I'm a registered nurse with varied experiences including 15 years in hospice nursing, and still do some consulting and before that 30 yr + career many jobs to make ends meet. I'm also a sister, and a daughter to my deceased parents. My mother in law, who lives with us has "adopted" me as her daughter. Soon I will be embarking on an adventure of volunteering for hospice as well. While never wanting to do psychiatric nursing out of fear of the unknown, I found myself navigating my own lifelong depression and anxiety. My children also have varied experience with mental illness (a subject we all need to discuss openly). I have high hopes that this site can help and encourage you during your journeys as well.

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