Speaking from experience is one of the best ways for me to convey to you what enabling looks like vs. truly helping. Enabling looks like:
- A parent not being aware, ignoring, or making excuses for behaviors in their children of addiction, mental difficulties with life. Hosea 4:6 “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge.”
- A parent or friend, family letting the addicted person “couch surf” or stay at your home while still involved in their addiction, while still not seeking professional or therapeutic help for their addiction or mental illness.
- Giving your family member or friend cash to “help” instead of the very thing they need for immediate assistance such as food, transportation to the therapist, doctor, or work. Matthew 4:19 “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.”
- Helping is giving them information that they may not be able to get for themselves (Names, phone #’s, addresses of entities that can provide therapy, food, shelter, sliding scale healthcare services).
- Stay in touch and let them know you care, love, are concerned for them. Matthew 5:1-3 “And he opened his mouth and taught them, saying: “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”
- If you love someone, are a friend to someone, know a person like this in your community one of the most powerful things you can do as a Christian (believer in Jesus as your savior) is to pray for them. For example: Think, O’ God, of our friend who is ill, whom we now commend to Your compassionate regard. that no healing is too hard if it be Your will. We therefore pray that You bless our friend with Your loving care, renew his/her strength, and heal what ails him/her in Your loving name.
Prayer is so powerful as mentioned in: Philippians 4:6-7 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. … Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.