Boundaries

Today I started my orientation to hospice volunteering. Our little town is building an inpatient hospice and will open in the spring of 2021. I want to serve by gardening, greeting, possibly being an ambassador to the community, and anything non-patient related. In the past I’d have said yes to anything but since years of therapy, maturation, and learning to establish my own boundaries has been taking root I am much more careful not to overextend myself. As you all know from reading my bio, I was a hospice RN for 15 years. After retiring from active nursing at bedside 5 years ago, I now keep myself busy partly by consulting with a little home care company in our area. It’s when I want to, where I want to, I was able to retain my hourly rate, and I do most of my work from home when I do work. Of course I write, I crochet, knit (taught myself with Youtube and with the encouragement of my friend Dorothy Turk. I help my (almost 90 yr old) mother in law when she needs me. It’s so empowering to decide what’s really important to me and when. You can do it too. In my 30’s I began practicing saying no when asked to do something (girl scout den mother)(drill team sponsor)( be in the choir)( work and extra shift) etc. Before that I would say yes to everything as I stated and as a result I’d end up feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, irritable and even more depressed as a result. For starters you can say,” I’m just not able to take that on right now.”. Good Luck!

Published by mud2porcelain

I am a Christian writer, aspiring to inspire, uplift, encourage and help those who are overwhelmed, overworked, over needed, or just at a difficult time in life. Being 64, married, divorced, now married to my high school sweetheart, having had 4 children, 10 grandchildren, and now 3 great grandchildren surely qualifies me to be able to discuss the difficulties of life even with a family without any bumps in the road. Just so you know, there've been plenty of bumps in the road. I've been down the wrong road, a muddy, deep rutted road, a dusty loooong road, and one that I've asked for plenty of guidance from those who felt they were qualified to help me. I'm a registered nurse with varied experiences including 15 years in hospice nursing, and still do some consulting and before that 30 yr + career many jobs to make ends meet. I'm also a sister, and a daughter to my deceased parents. My mother in law, who lives with us has "adopted" me as her daughter. Soon I will be embarking on an adventure of volunteering for hospice as well. While never wanting to do psychiatric nursing out of fear of the unknown, I found myself navigating my own lifelong depression and anxiety. My children also have varied experience with mental illness (a subject we all need to discuss openly). I have high hopes that this site can help and encourage you during your journeys as well.

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